I had 2 sessions with Tom and he is excellent. (he also offered another one for free when I reached out regarding struggling with an issue related to hearing certain songs that trigger lots of tears at bad moments and was willing to follow up, I just haven’t yet).
Tom was really professional, kind and amazing to work with. The main idea is to address “overall sadness” related to the loss and then a possible “connection” with our child during the session. For me (and apparently I am not standard as it related to the connection part, according to Tom, but I only have my experience to base anything on). What this helped me with tremendously was decreasing the sheer panic when I hear an ambulance, think about cremation and some other things that he worked on with me. It worked a lot like Irene’s sister’s group (I am forgetting her name), which I did early on, which had bilateral tapping and worked a miracle in getting a particular vision out of my head. He focuses on everything from the overall sadness to particular things that are upsetting and it worked really well especially on those events. I still get sad and can’t believe this is reality but this was a big help in reducing the trauma around it. It’s also a lot easier to focus on the connection part when we are less sad, which is what I was looking for.
The after life part is where I might be different. I think for most that Tom works with they are hoping to have that connection or vision as part of the process, which he makes time and space for, but I feel my son Evan’s energy all the time and he communicates with me moving his energy (he shows up in my lower face, which sounds weird but it’s true and then he moves his energy up my face for yes and down for no). So as I was in my sessions with Tom, Tom would check to see if I needed to keep working on a particular thing (like seeing ambulances) and I would check with Evan and Evan would tell me when to move on. So Evan was just part of the whole thing. That may be different than what other people may experience who may not have a regular connection like that– they may have something more dramatic, but that was my experience.
The entire experience was positive, incredibly beneficial and thank you for sharing him with HPH!
~Suzyn Card
I’m reaching out to make a recommendation for Tom Nehmy as a resource for Shining Light Parents.
Tom offers a therapy called IADC which uses eye movement techniques similar to EMDR while having the client focus on their loved one in spirit. The primary purpose of the therapy is to address sadness related to grief. Additionally, a common experience during the therapy is a feeling of connectedness or contact with one’s loved one in spirit.
In June of 2025, I participated in 2, 90 minute sessions, which Tom facilitated over Zoom. The experience was fascinating.
The first session was an intensive focus on my feelings relating to my son Sam who had graduated to Heaven 2 years prior. Tom was very empathetic and patient during this first session as it took me some time to understand how to focus on the eye stimulus while dealing with such strong emotions.
The second session was 24 hours later. In this session I did experience Sam’s presence in the room with me. While it was still difficult facing the sadness and trauma of his passing during the session, I distinctly felt Sam was there to reassure me he is fine and that I didn’t need to work so hard on finding happiness again.
Tom encouraged me to ask Sam any questions during this moment. I asked Sam what it is like where he is now. His answer was that it was nothing like anything I could comprehend, that there were no words to explain it and that I should think of it as colors, not just one color but like the brilliance of light reflecting off a mirror or disco ball, all the colors dancing at once.
The whole experience was quite amazing. It was difficult but rewarding to be able to connect with Sam and put aside doubts and fears that he is out of reach or “gone forever “ as I often do. I will say that I don’t think sadness can be eliminated when your child leaves before you, however I do think that sadness can be something one can manage. This type of therapy can be one such tool to help with sadness. I would recommend IADC with Tom Nehmy for anyone open to trying something different to help them with the grief of having a loved one transition to spirit.
~Angie Stevens
Tom Nehmy’s website
https://www.healinggriefwithiadc.com/
