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Evolved Souls Don’t Need Long Earthly Experiences  June 2023 by Mark Pitstick, MA, D

Evolved Souls Don’t Need Long Earthly Experiences  June 2023 by Mark Pitstick, MA, D

  • Posted
    • May
    • 17
    • 2024
by Elizabeth Boisson

Evolved Souls Don’t Need Long Earthly Experiences
June 2024 by Mark Pitstick, MA, DC

To all family members, I am very sorry about the death of your child’s human form.  (Your daughter and/or son didn't really die even though their earth-suit did.  That's an extremely important distinction.)  I’m glad you are learning how to heal and transform despite this seeming tragedy.  Six key understandings to making that shift are:

     1. Over 99% of who and what your child 'was' is still alive in the next phase of life.  This is true no matter how they passed on.  See the following articles at for a review of the scientific, clinical, and experiential evidence for this statement.

  1. Again, only their earthly body died: everything else about them continues – all the love, energy, sense of humor, memories, personality, energetic / spiritual body, and much more.

  2. They are happy, peaceful, loving, and enthusiastic – and want you to be that way now too. Read article #2 When a Child Changes Worlds and #93 For Bereaved Parents and Family Members to learn how you can do that. 

         4. You will see them when you pass on and can enjoy a different kind of relationship now.  To learn more about how you can do this, see article #9 Visit With ‘Departed’ Loved Ones Now
         5. You can choose – moment by moment – to transmute your grief into a spiritually transformative experience that powerfully improves your life and blesses others.  To learn how, see article #82 Journey from 'Bereaved' to 'Shining Light'

         6. You can heal and share gifts from their life and transition from earth by lovingly serving others.  Read article #84 Heal and Transform Your Suffering.


After a child changes worlds, family members understandably feel much pain, sadness, anger, guilt, and other lower-energy emotions.   No one could or should ever judge that.  However, many have learned to regularly use keys #1 - 6 above and, over time, and feel more peace, joy, love, and gratitude.  To learn more about how you can do this, see article #108 Higher Energies, Emotions, and Ways of Being.    

You can do the same.  It’s not easy and it doesn’t happen overnight, but it is possible with small steps day by day using the above keys and six action steps . . .

  1. Attend online HPH meetings on the Calendar and attend local Affiliate Groups.  (If there's not an in-person group nearby, consider staring one.)   


  1. Use Special Interest Groups that offer more focused service for fathers, siblings, parents of children who passed by suicide or substance abuse, and much more.

  2. Contact The Caring Listeners to talk with at no charge


  1. Read free articles at and take relevant action steps


  1. Listen to free Radio Shows at and experts' answers to life’s toughest questions including “Why do children die?”


  1. Lean on others as needed. Later, when you are doing better, you can help others. 

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Update on the 'Shining Light Parents Speak' book!


In October 2023, Lynn Hollahan and I began four months of interviewing over 120 Affiliate Leaders and Caring Listeners via Zoom. (Lynn, a Shining Light Parent extraordinaire, scheduled the interviews and co-hosted the meetings.) These parents are well along the path of becoming Shining Light Parents.


Elizabeth Boisson and Irene Vouvalides, President and Vice-President of Helping Parents Heal (HPH), enlisted Lynn and I to do this ultra-important but very time-consuming project. I, or Elizabeth for three of the sessions, asked each parent the same six questions:


  1. Would you please tell us about your children's life and how they passed on?


  1. How did you discover Helping Parents Heal (HPH) and how did that help you?


  1. How are you now serving others through HPH, and what motivated you to do that?


  1. How have you learned to optimally sense your children's living presence?


  1. What are three things you've learned that you want to share with other parents?


  1. What is your belief about meaning and timing to your children's passing?


From the very start, we could sense what a powerful project this would become.  During preparation with six parents before the second set of interviews, Lisa Wilcoxson shared via our group Zoom video call that her sons Michael and Anthony had transitioned from earth. Both of them, she described, were in frequent contact especially via electronic devices.  At that moment, balloons and fireworks exploded above my head on the Zoom screen.  After the ‘oohs and ahs’ had died down, I asked who made that happen since I didn’t.  None of them had done anything to create those images.  After a few moments of stunned silence, Lisa matter-of-factly said, “That's what I was just telling you about my boys! They are always up to something like that.”


Since 1972, I’ve searched for evidence of the afterlife when I started working in hospitals with many adults and children whose earthly forms perished.  As a result, my degree of certainty about life continuing after bodily death is very high.  I thought I had heard and seen it all.  However, seeing those balloons and fireworks – when none of us made it happen – took my ‘knowing’ to another level.  I said aloud, “Oh, so that's how these interviews are going to go!” (Unfortunately, we don't have a recording of that amazing event since we hadn't started the interviews yet, but we do have eight witnesses.)


During the third interview, Allison and David Alison shared how their son Davey often came through loudly and clearly when they sensed him.  David described the importance of being open and accepting to how Davey came through.  At that very moment, I received an undeniable communication into the right side of my head.  It was as though someone had just yelled down from the ceiling.


I actually looked up in that direction and said to David, “Wow, I’ve got to tell you this. You mentioned listening to ‘the voice in my head that was him (Davey) so clearly’.  Just then, I heard “Mark, you guys need to write a book from these interviews. Capture key phrases and all the wisdom because there’s so much there!” Davey recommended the title Shining Lights Speak for this book, but we added ‘Parents’ to it. 


I took a deep breath and exhaled, waved my hand as if my face were hot, and stammered: “God! Thank you for his message. Whew! Wow, wow, wow.”  (You can watch this video at 'Third Interview' under Affiliate Leaders and Caring Listener Interviews.)


Over the last 25 years, I’ve interviewed many well-known people including Wayne Dyer, Brian Weiss, Raymond Moody, and Caroline Myss. I’ve hosted two radio shows and given presentations at hundreds of workshops and webinars.  Despite all that, I was almost speechless after Davey’s apparent communication came through.  I now better understand the feelings behind the terms ‘mind-boggling’, ‘gob-smacked’, and ‘mind-blowing’.  


After a few hours of sleep that night, I awakened with an outline for the book seemingly downloaded into my brain.  Soon afterwards, I sent an email to some Shining Light Parents. I shared what I just described and asked for volunteers to assemble key statements and stories from the interviews into a book.


Four exemplary Shining Light moms, all with prior writing and editing experience, agreed to help: Anne-marie Taplin leading the project with Nancy Hejna, Dolores Cruz, and Davey’s mom Allison. They transcribed words from the videos and identified and assembled ‘the gold / the best of the best’. (This was a very difficult job since there were so many wonderful stories and statements to choose from.) 


And this book was born!  Each attendee at the conference in August will receive a free copy of the book.  Stay tuned to learn when the book is available by reading HPH and free newsletters. 


We hope you feel the sacredness and power of their words as much as we have.  May Shining Light Parents Speak become a tipping point for you to deeply know and show that this earthly experience is a totally safe, meaningful, and magnificent adventure amidst eternity.


Hugs, love, and blessings as you increasingly heal, transform, and shine!


Note #1
: As long as my schedule allows, I will email brief but information and resource-packed replies to parents, siblings, and other close family member at no charge.  Just email me at with your biggest questions and toughest challenges and I'll create a personalized holistic program for you.   


Note #2: My inexpensive audio products, books, and documentary film can help you heal, optimally transform, discover the silver linings to your child's bodily death, and use those to help yourself and others.  Email me if you cannot afford any of these products and we’ll send a complimentary digital copy.  


Disclaimer: This information is not designed to replace medical or psychological care.  Dr. Pitstick’s recommendations are based on over fifty years of training and experience in hospitals, pastoral counseling settings, mental health centers, and chiropractic holistic health practice.  Some of his statements are supported by clinical and scientific data while others are based on experiential evidence and his best current understandings.  

Mark Pitstick, MA, DC is an author, counselor with a masters in clinical psychology, holistic chiropractic physician, frequent media guest, and workshop / webinar teacher.  Mark also completed extensive postgraduate training in clinical nutrition.  While attending theology school majoring in pastoral counseling, he provided suicide prevention counseling and education.  Mark directs The SoulPhone Foundation, founded Greater Reality Living groups, and assists SoulPhone Project research for the Laboratory for Advances in Consciousness and Health.  His mission is to help you know and show – no matter what is happening to you or around you – that this earthly experience is a totally safe, meaningful, and magnificent adventure amidst forever.  Visit for free articles, radio shows, and newsletters. 



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