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The Wisdom of Greg - How Bill Connects with Greg

The Wisdom of Greg - How Bill Connects with Greg

  • Posted
    • Feb
    • 22
    • 2024
by Elizabeth Boisson
Written by Susan Van Oije with Bill and Greg
Bill is just an ordinary guy who has had extraordinary things happen to him since the passing of his son Greg. Susan writes it all down. The Calgary, Canada affiliate leaders are on an amazing journey with their son. 
A few days after our 27-year-old son passed 9 1/2 years ago, Bill discovered that he could see Greg and hear him talk to him. In recent years, this has turned into full-blown conversations with Greg during which Bill automatically writes as our son communicates his astounding insights and guidance from the other side. 
When we share Bill's experiences in this monthly newsletter column, on the HPH Facebook page, or in one of the HPH YouTube videos we've made, many fellow Shining Light Parents ask: "How does Bill connect with his son?" We share in common an urge to connect and communicate with our children in spirit. It's something we all want to experience, and yet for many parents it seems like a frustrating - if not impossible - goal.
So how did Bill start connecting with Greg? And why did this ability seem to suddenly show up out of nowhere?
It's important to remember that Bill really is just an ordinary guy who had no idea he has this gift. But here's where it gets interesting on a soul level: Greg has explained to his Dad that the ease and strength of their connection has been in the works for a very long time. Greg has told his Dad that they have reversed their roles as father and son many times in previous lifetimes, and "because of our soul connection over millennia, we have figured out how to speak across the veil with no difficulty through much exchanged light and energy, fueling our capacity to communicate." 
This beautiful soul connection doesn't mean, however, that Bill doesn't have to put in the work to connect with Greg. He explains it this way: "It's a matter of what you put in is what you get out, so I make sure that I stay in contact with Greg on a regular basis. That way I know that we're in constant communication and it just keeps flowing."
Within days of Greg's passing, Bill started experiencing very frequent and vivid dream visits from Greg. During the day, he could hear Greg talk to him in his head, and at night, he could see Greg's outline and purple and green colors in our darkened bedroom. All of these forms of communication continue to occur, but the real game changer for Bill is meditation.
Bill had started to meditate several years before Greg passed as a way to relax, but eventually stopped the practice. A few years after Greg left this Earth, I encouraged Bill to start meditating again. This opened up a deeper communication with our son, and Greg has just run with it. 
Bill meditates almost every day. He goes into a quiet room in our home, turns on some relaxing music, lays on the floor with his eyes closed and goes into what he calls "the zone." This comes very easily for Bill because over the years he's learned how to shut off what he calls his "monkey mind," and that ability started when Bill started meditating all those years ago before Greg passed. Bill's "zone" is really a description of mindfulness, of being in the now and not allowing the incessant stream of thinking to flood the mind. It opens up the channel to receive messages from the other side. 
Because Bill has tamed his monkey mind, he's able to get into the zone very easily. As Bill goes into the zone, he feels the quiet wash over him and no longer feels connected to his body. "I start to watch my mind's eye. Sometimes I see colors and shapes, and sometimes I see faces and places. I'm just no longer here. I just drop into it." 
Greg will often start talking to his Dad while he's in that meditative state, especially if Bill has asked him to come through. Sometimes Greg initiates the contact. "I feel Greg immediately come near me and I sense his presence and I hear him." 
Six years ago, Greg told his Dad, "Get up and write this down," and so began Bill's surprising ability to automatic write. He can spend anywhere from five to 20 minutes writing down what he hears Greg tell him in his head.
"Sometimes at night before I go to sleep I'll talk to Greg and ask him a question," says Bill. "I'll ask him, 'Is there anything I need to know?' He often comes to me in the middle of the night, wakes me up, and I'll get up and start writing. I keep a pen and paper next to my bed." 
And me? Let's just say that meditation is not my forte, and it's very rare that I hear Greg talking to me in my head. In the 9 1/2 years since Greg passed, I've dreamed about him a handful of times. I know that it would be very interesting, if not overwhelming, if both of us connected to our son as intensely as Bill does. Conversations in our household would go something like this: "Greg told me this!" "OK, but Greg told me this!" Very early on, I knew that my role was to support Bill and write everything down that happens to us. I'm just eternally thankful that one of us has such a strong open channel to our beloved son on the other side. 
If you're struggling with meditation, please remember to keep talking to your child in spirit. They hear everything, and your loving thoughts reach them, whether you hear back from them or not. HPH offers resources for meditation and tools to connect with your child. There are guided meditation videos on the HPH YouTube channel, and monthly Zoom groups that focus on guided meditation and connecting with your loved one (For more information, see 'Special Interest Groups' under the 'Affiliate Groups' tab at 
If you want to hear more about our amazing experiences, Bill and I have twice spoken to HPH and the videos are available on the HPH YouTube channel: click here HPH welcomed Susan & Bill Van Oije, 'From Wow to How!' - YouTube for our most recent video detailing the beautiful messages Greg gives us about how to live our best life in this very challenging place and grow our souls, and click here On February 3rd, Bill Van Oije spoke to Helping Parents Heal - YouTube for the video in which Bill shares some of the astounding signs we've received from our son.

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