Tracy Venter's Validation through her Granddaughter, Noelle
by Elizabeth Boisson
My daughter transitioned a little over 5 years ago, leaving behind her precious two-year-old daughter. Later her husband went to prison and so my ex-husband and I share guardianship of our granddaughter, Noelle. For a few months after Jessica passed, I know that Noelle could still feel and see her. One night as I lay next to her to get her to sleep, she suddenly bolted straight up in the bed and said excitedly “GMA! GMA! Look there is mommy! Do you see her? She is right there!” (as she pointed up toward the ceiling fan over the bed). Another time she was playing quietly in the living room while I worked in my study nearby. All of a sudden she said “Mommy! Mommy!”. I braced myself, fearing this could be sad and uncomfortable. But she went back to playing. A few minutes later she came running to the front door, looking out the window up and down the street. I asked her what she was doing, and she said, “Oh mommy had to leave now and go back to heaven”. I knew then that her mommy had been there playing with her.
She eventually seemed to lose this gift and although we talk about mommy often, I have never discussed seeing signs from mommy. Yesterday she showed me a book she had made about family and love being the most important thing. Every page had an upbeat message with a cheery drawing. Some pages said things like “Dream Big!!!”, “Always remember one thing...love is the strongest thing here. Love is stronger than hate or anger”, and “Happy days are worth everything”. However, when I came to this page, I was absolutely blown away by what this 7-year-old composed since, again, I have not really talked to her about signs. I will now!
-Written by Tracy Venters, mother to Jessica and GMA to Noelle
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