Evolved Souls Don’t Need Long Earthly Experiences May 2023 by Mark Pitstick, MA, DC
by Elizabeth Boisson
To all family members, I am very sorry about the death of your child’s human form. However, I’m glad you are learning that – except for the earthly body – he or she is alive, happy, peaceful, and wants you to be the same. I'm also happy that you are learning how to heal and transform despite this seeming tragedy. Six key understandings to making that shift are:
1. Approximately 99% of who and what your child “was” is still alive in the next phase of life. This is true no matter how they passed on. See articles #1 and 60 at SoulProof.com for a review of the scientific and clinical evidence for this statement. For more information, see my short and easy-to-read book The Afterlife Evidence.
- Only his earthly body died. Everything else continues – the love, energy, sense of humor, memory, personality, energetic body, and much more. Really knowing this is a key to healing.
She is happy, peaceful, loving, and enthusiastic – and wants you to be that way now too. Read article #2 When a Child Changes Worlds and #93 For Bereaved Parents and Family Members to learn how you can do that.
4. You will see him when you pass on and can enjoy a different kind of relationship now. To learn more about how you can do this, see article #9 Visit With ‘Departed’ Loved Ones Now
5. You can choose to transmute your grief into a spiritually transformative experience that
powerfully improves your life and blesses others. See article #82 Journey from 'Bereaved' to 'Shining Light'
6. You can heal and increase the gifts from his life by lovingly serving others. Read article #84 Heal and Transform Your Suffering
After a child changes worlds, family members understandably feel much pain, sadness, anger, guilt, and other lower energy emotions. No one could or should ever judge that. However, many have learned to emphasize #1 – 6 above and enjoy life again. They have journeyed – one step at a time – FROM primarily identifying as bereaved TO shining light persons.
Shining light family members have sad feeling too at times, but they choose to focus – as much as possible – on appreciation for great times and memories, realization they will see their child again, and transformation by finding the silver linings. They resolve to make the world a better place in honor of their children by creating more meaning to their life and passing.
You can do the same. It’s not easy and it doesn’t happen overnight, but it is possible with small steps day by day. To learn more, see article #2 at SoulProof.com. Here are five action steps . . .
- Attend local and online Helping Parents Heal meetings
- Contact The Caring Listeners to talk with at no charge
- Read free articles at SoulProof.com and take relevant action steps
- Listen to free Radio Shows at SoulProof.com and experts' answers to life’s toughest questions including “Why do children die?”
- Lean on others as needed. Later, when you are doing better, you can help others.
This month's theme is 'the power of reaching out'. It's kind of long but contains a powerful true story, 'take home' messages, and a free gift. Amanda emailed me . . .
I have gone to the Helping Parents Heal website a few times to find a Caring Listener, but I don't know who to call. I am completely overcome with guilt, grief and loss over the sudden and tragic loss of my 13 year old son 18 months ago. I don't have much family, no one to hug me, or anyone who will just sit and listen. Family and friends all think I should be better by now. I have read a lot of the material on your site, done your meditations, read lots of other books, listened to spiritual healing podcasts, etc. All that has helped but I get in these moments like now when I completely fall apart and I don't know what to do. Can you please recommend a good person for me to talk to and suggest what else I can do? Thank you so much, Amanda
I replied to her the same day . . .
I am very sorry for all your pain and suffering. But I am glad that you are reaching out and searching for meaningful answers to why the bodily death of a child happens in a loving and supportive universe. (Please notice my precise language: your son didn't die, just his earth-suit did. Over 99% of who and what he REALLY IS still lives and is rooting you to remember that and live accordingly. He is an eternal soul and, quite likely, a highly evolved one.)
Your 'no one to hug' brought tears to my eyes. We all need hugs and support. Are there any local Helping Parents Heal groups in your area? Do you regularly attend their online meetings? There's such a palpable sense of love, support, and community there plus lots of air hugs. Do you read their monthly newsletters?
Have you reached out to an open-hearted, open-minded, and service-centered church or spiritual center? Here's the list from my article #66 Optimal Relationships for More Evolved People at SoulProof.com that has worked the best for me. (Yours might be different but this gives you an idea about possibilities): Unity and other 'higher thought' centers such as Unitarian Universalist, Buddhist, Religious Science, Hindu temples, Centers for Spiritual Living, United Church of Christ (UCC), Spiritualist, Native American spirituality groups, yoga and meditation groups, kirtan gatherings, and drum circles.
Have you used the Holistic Breathing Technique yet? That is one of the most powerful ways I know to release the deep pain, sadness, anger, guilt, etc. that parents often feel. Below is my gift to you of the audio files. (Note: all parents and family members can use these files.)
Holistic Breathing Technique
After using that technique for a month, add the Ask Your Soul, G.O.D., and Angels session. Let me know if you can't afford it and we'll send free digital audio files.
Regarding an optimal Caring Listener, there are a number of factors involved. For example, do you prefer a female or male, someone whose child died in an accident, or a person from the U.S. or elsewhere? My feeling is that you should work with two different people. Let's try trusting your inner wisdom on this as an exercise to develop that gift. (Keep in mind that your son, angels, guides, masters, and The Light are always assisting and guiding you.)
With that in mind, say a little prayer or intention that you will be drawn to just the right people. Then scan the list, re-read their bios, and contact two people you are drawn to. If you're not pleased with the interaction, you can choose someone else.
Please feel free to check in with me periodically and let me know how it's going. You'll likely be in a significantly better spot in 90 days. Then we can access what's next, for example, the Facilitated After Death Communication and Pre-Birth Planning sessions.
Hugs, love, and blessings,
The next day, I shared Amanda's email with all the Affiliate Leaders and Caring Listeners. Suzanne was the first one to reply and said she would like to help. Another Caring Listener said she would love to help. I shared their messages with Amanda who responded:
Thank you so much, Mark. I needed someone to reach out to this morning and it meant so much to me that you even responded. My son's accident was in 2021 when things were still shut down and there were no in-person grief groups. I haven't looked since then but will do that again.
I really appreciate your sentiment that my son, angels and guides will lead me to the right caring listener. I'm a very intuitive person and I needed the reminder to let that guide me.
By the way, I have been getting very clear signs from my son since about two days after his accident so I know that he is around. But I can't detach from the fact that he's not physically here.
Again, Mark, thank you so much. Your help is more than I could ask for.
Wow! Overnight, she shifted to . . .
- feeling gratitude for unexpected help
- remembering that she is intuitive and can use that ability
- focusing on clear signs from her son
That's a major shift, one that can energize moving toward being a shining light parent and person. (To learn more about that, see article #82 Journey FROM Bereaved TO Shining Light.)
Then the magic continued: Suzanne, the first Caring Listener to contact me about helping Amanda, lives near her in northern VA. They will meet in person and Amanda can get her much needed hugs.
There are several lessons here for All parents and family members:
- powerful HPH resources exist to help you BUT you have to reach out first
- significant improvement can be yours more quickly than you might think
- what you focus on – your thoughts, words, and actions – shapes how you feel
Hugs, love, and blessings as you heal, transform, and remember the big picture of life!
Notes: I will email brief but informative replies to questions from any bereaved parent or family member at no charge. Email me at email@example.com and I'll reply quickly. I mention my audio products and books so you have resources for healing and transformation. Email me if you need, but cannot afford any products, and we’ll send a complimentary digital copy.
Disclaimer: This information is not designed to replace medical or psychological care. Dr. Pitstick’s recommendations are based on fifty years of training and experience in hospitals, pastoral counseling settings, mental health centers, and chiropractic holistic health practice. Some of his statements are supported by clinical and scientific data while others are based on experiential evidence and his best current understandings.
Mark Pitstick, MA, DC is an author, counselor with a masters in clinical psychology, holistic chiropractic physician, frequent media guest, and workshop / webinar teacher. Mark also completed extensive postgraduate training in clinical nutrition. While attending theology school majoring in pastoral counseling, he provided suicide prevention counseling and education. Mark directs The SoulPhone Foundation, founded Greater Reality Living groups, and assists SoulPhone Project research for the Laboratory for Advances in Consciousness and Health. His mission is to help you know and show that – no matter what is happening to you or around you – this earthly experience is a totally safe, meaningful, and magnificent adventure amidst forever. Visit SoulProof.com for free articles, radio shows, and newsletters.